Thursday

New Job Resolution - Create a Plan and Stick to It

Tired of the environment you currently work?  Looking to do some things differently?  If so, it is time to create a plan that will get you on your way to better opportunities.

First, take a look at how you spend your day.  How much time are you spending surfing the Internet and watching TV?  Adjust your schedule so that you are doing job search related activities. Schedule time to do things like update your online career profile, resume and cover-letters.

Next, plan to speak with others at the companies that you plan to work or check sites that provide reviews.  You don't want to make the same mistake by connecting with a company that doesn't pay workers well or offer quality benefits.

Third, search social media sites like Linked In, Twitter and Facebook to see if there are postings about companies and jobs you may want to perform.

Fourth, consider seeking supplemental income just in case you feel the need to want to leave your current job sooner rather than later.  You can view pages on this blog for additional information or conduct a search on this site.

Lastly, don't assume that you will find a job quickly.  Most often it takes six months or more to become employed again.

Do remember to budget money accordingly just in case an employer is planning a layoff or termination.

Also, discuss with your social circle on what your needs might be for future employment so that they will be on the look out for you.

Take a moment to check our partner's job search browser just above this blog entry.  You can put in your desired position or check for "work from home" opportunities.

Nicholl McGuire is not only the blog owner but a freelance writer and content marketing manager. She also owns Nicholl McGuire Media an online publishing firm.

Thursday

Workplace Problems and Solutions Blogger with a Wish for a Great Year

I just wanted to take this moment to thank the contributors of this blog and all those who have shared their entries.  I am so glad that so many professionals have found it useful.  I look forward to an even better and more productive year!

At this time we are welcoming any contributors who would like to be featured for their workplace highs and lows.  Also any individual or business who would like to purchase ad space, do make contact.

Feel free to reply to this post or contact me at nichollmcguire@gmail.com

Nicholl McGuire is the manager of this blog, a self-published author, inspirational speaker, and business owner originally from Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania. She has been a featured guest on television and radio talk shows such as CBS and WPXI Channel 11.

Wednesday

5 Things that will Sever a Good Partnership with Administrative Assistant, Secretary

She or he is your right hand man or woman promptly meeting your demands, addressing those who you don't want to deal with, and setting the record straight with your staff when you aren't around or don't want to handle situations.  Yet, one day something happens that changes your once healthy work relationship on a different course.  Now your administrative assistant or secretary may not like or respect you as much as she once did.  Why?

Let's reflect back shall we?

Think of a time you said or did something that crossed boundaries with your worker.  Maybe you commented harshly about his or her work, made a false accusation, used the individual to cover your dirt, etc.  Sometimes management can be ineffective, difficult, needy, or bizarre about responsibilities, feedback, and other work related matters.  So what might you be doing to destroy what remains of a so-so or bad relationship with an administrative professional?

1.  You defended favorite staff members even when they often break rules, act disrespectful and more.  Your admin or secretary came to you with unflattering information about a worker you really liked and rather than weigh the evidence, address the matter or receive the feedback, you defended your personal favorite and may have went so far as to tell your admin or secretary, "Mind your own business!"  What are employment instruction booklets and rules for again? 

2.  You went too far with your deadlines and demands.  You have many things lined up and you expect your admin/secretary to do it all.  Then when he or she rejects some of your requests, you are offended rather than consider how long and how much of a workload this person already has--who is really at fault about missing deadlines?

3.  You repeatedly attempted to cover up your lies, mistakes, and other issues and used your admin or secretary to do it.  Many workers do have a conscious and if your work ethics are lacking and you get your workers in on your mess, sooner or later they are not going to keep playing along.

4.  You never admit when you are in the wrong.  From your schedule to what you told him or her, you just can't accept the fact that your admin/secretary is on top of things.  That's why you have this individual, because keeping track of everything on your own is challenging, so why hurt those who can help you?

5.  You burned your worker out.  He or she is emotionally and physically drained possibly with you, the workplace environment, or one's concerns falling on your deaf ears.  You are either going to do something to manage the situation or let the work relationship burn.

Consider this sound advice if you strongly want to keep your busy professional around, but if not, there are plenty more out there.  If you choose not to change certain habits, conduct at work, policies and procedures and staff concerns, you just might attract more problems for yourself and the team in the future.

Nicholl McGuire is a business owner, manager of this blog and virtual assistant.

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10 Effortless Tricks to Waking up Earlier


The Wake Up Call About a Dead End Job

What a breakthrough when you finally come to that cross roads in your career where you ask yourself, "What on earth am I doing?  This job sucks!"  Well, good for you if this has recently happened to you. 

When I first realized I was in a couple dead end jobs, I was a mere 19 years old working for two companies that paid very little.  I wasn't the least bit happy to find out at the time that I wasn't going to make much more money after college either.  So you know what I did?  I put on my entrepreneurial hat and started thinking like a business woman.  I wasn't about to let others dictate my future for me and I definitely wasn't going to stick it out with jobs just for money sake.

Life is too short my friend.  When you know that you just can't stand to see yourself five years from now in the same job, it is time to do something different!

Nicholl McGuire manages her small business Nicholl McGuire Media publishing web content for individuals and businesses in need.

Wednesday

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  • Daily Programs
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Wednesday

Passive Aggressive People at Work, Home and Elsewhere

 
Workplace Problems Blog owner, author and virtual assistant Nicholl McGuire is sharing insightful tips about passive aggressive behavior with references from Difficult Personalities
and personal commentary about this book.  Great reading for managers and other leaders.
 
Listen here:
 
 
 
The speaker shares spiritual insight on YouTube channel: nmenterprise7.
 
 

Monday

What are You Doing Wrong? When Management, Co-workers Grow Impatient with You

Sometimes you just can't do anything right when it comes to management and others as a new employee.  Maybe you are having an off day, have no clue what someone wants, or just don't want to do things in the way that he or she wants, whatever the reason, if you don't snap out of it, things are only going to get worse for you.

So here are some tips that might help if you are experiencing a lot of heat from leadership and fellow workers:

1.  Identify what the problem might be.  Maybe you are not the one at fault, but do those around you know what seems to be the problem?  Communicate your concerns about equipment, workflow, customer service issues, and anything else that might be impacting how you do your job.

2.  Don't assume that you aren't the problem.  Sometimes people work slower than others, their minds go elsewhere due to personal issues at home, and more.  As much as you would love not to be the cause of something gone wrong, humble yourself and check what errors you made and work hard not to keep making them.  Some leaders aren't very understanding when it comes to making mistakes.

3.  Poor training.  Could it be that you need additional training?  If so, don't hesitate to talk with someone who can help you with this like a supervisor or Human Resources.

4.  Work schedule no longer working out.  Things change in our personal lives that impact work hours.  Think about how you might be able to do some things differently to bring peace of mind to all parties including yourself.  You may have to start looking for another job.

5.  Socializing too much.  Sometimes talking with visitors, guests, clients, co-workers and others can get in the way of job performance.  Cut down on the communication and focus on the tasks at hand.  You can always make arrangements to go out to lunch with a favorite co-worker or meet after work.

6.  Health issues.  Pain is not always easy to manage.  So if you find that you just can't move as quickly as you once did, stand for a long time, and do other things, you will need to get a medical excuse and talk with management on doing other things within the department or elsewhere.

7.  Ineffective management and/or staff.  From poor instructions to inconsistent rules, when teammates are looking to place blame, rather than check what they are doing wrong, this can lead to many problems at work.  If you should be experiencing this sort of thing, you will need to make arrangements to meet with management, co-workers and a Human Resources representative if need be.  It is always better to air out issues, then let them fester to the point that someone ends up doing something he or she might later regret.

When work performance tends to steadily go downhill, always take the time to:  identify the problem, seek solutions, create a plan in writing, set up a meeting (if necessary) with those linked to the issues, and make needed changes.  To your success!

Nicholl McGuire manages over 18 plus blogs, writes e-books and books, and provides virtual assistance services.  Her business is Nicholl McGuire Media.

 

Sunday

Your Future and The Job

You can predict at least some of what is ahead when it comes to your job.  There are some indicators that alert you to whether you will be able to go the distance with a company.  But if you are not watching for signs, then you just might be blind-sided with a major layoff, a favorite manager or co-worker leaving, a major change in protocol and more.

Consider the following questions when thinking about your future and making plans for yourself and family:

1.  Do you really like your job?  List how many things you like about it and compare them to the things you hate about it.  If there are more things you dislike than like, then this is a good predictor of your future with the company.

2.  Is there room for improvement and are you making contributions?  If you have no desire to be a part of any changes and can't think of anything much else to do, then you may not be seeing yourself as a team player which could affect whether you or "they" would attempt to protect your job if there should be a lay off.

3.  Do you have little or no respect for management?  You might be able to weather the storm, if you took on a leadership role.  Look for opportunities to teach, supervise or manage a project.  This will help keep you interested in the job and you just might be on your way to a promotion.

4.  Is your personal feelings about people at your job getting in the way of how you relate to a partner, children and other relatives?  If there are major issues arising personally, you may need to strongly consider whether the job is worth potentially losing a partner and/or children.  If you don't have either, could you see yourself managing this job and having a family too while maintaining your sanity?  You might have to put on hold thoughts of marriage and children for right now.

5.  How much are they paying you and is your salary worth it?  Think about whether your financial goals are being met with the money they are paying you.  If you feel you are working way too hard for peanuts, consider looking at what other companies are paying.  A future relocation might be necessary.

6.  Are people aware at work how you truly feel about working for the company?  If your attitude is negative, chances are someone or a group has talked to management about your attitude, work performance and more.  Negative things that are done and said at the work force have a way of coming back to haunt you sooner or later.  Start thinking about a back up plan just in case you are one day suddenly terminated.

7.  How much money do you need to put aside to achieve personal goals you have yet to do?  Whatever your desires, they will cost money and time, so create an effective plan that will put your mind at ease and stick to it.  Otherwise, your personal problems will show on the job. 

Sometimes the issues we experience aren't about jobs, but personal disappointments that we have not allowed for time to address. Let them fester and they will negatively impact your resume i.e.) one year with this company, two years with that one, unemployment gaps, etc., future companies will start to hesitate about hiring you.

Once you have interviewed yourself, you will have some idea what your future looks like and whether or not your job is indeed right for you. Keep in mind, loved ones will be affected by whatever decision you reach, so choose wisely.

Nicholl McGuire shares spiritual insight on a number of topics, writes books and provides administrative support to individuals and businesses.

Friday

Employee, Boss Conflict - Who are You Really?

Do you know whether your boss wants the worker who thinks outside the box, the one who stays within the box, or the one who is like a Jack-in-the-box?

When an employer doesn't really know what he/she is doing in one's position much less know what others are up to around him or her, how can the leader expect much?

You might be great at leading, following or both, but whatever your greatness the truth is you have some weaknesses.  You either enjoy thinking far too much outside the box, staying put within it, or popping up out of no where with something new and different.  This kind of thinking also affects your skills and decisions at times--too rigid, laid back, slow, fast, etc.  You might be any one of these adjectives on most days impacting operations in negative ways at times.  However, any weakness can be worked on and before long one is doing quite well at the workplace. 

Sometimes employers make duties more challenging for workers when they don't have to be.  They list 30 plus position requirements and then one discovers there are 30 more once hired or promoted.  Of course, the employee is going to exemplify the kind of character traits that will get what is done on paper, but will eventually question or make suggestions about those 30 other tasks.  This is where the work relationship might take a shift with some professionals between management and staff.  The boss wanted to see the side of the employee he or she hired and only that one while forgetting that people can be fickle.

Let's take a moment and think about a fictional employee, a great actor or actress for the interview.  Have one in mind?  Dressed to perfection, articulate, has all the credentials, and great references, but then after six months or more shows his or her work ethic, difficult personality, and more while leaving an employer scratching his head.  "Now who is this guy/gal again?" a manager might say.

When a leader has his or her idea of what a worker should be based on what the work description says, rather than who he or she is, things tend to take a different turn.  The boss will want to re-think whether he or she communicated expectations well.  Also, take notice of the system he or she has in place that might not allow too much wiggle room or may not be a good fit for the employee.  You end up with a performer that does what is asked--nothing more, nothing less.  This problem can be solved if one creates a comfortable atmosphere where there is room to improve, grow with change, respect other's ideas/opinions/customs etc. With improvements in place, who knows what strides an individual or team might make.

One of the toughest relationships to have with another is the one where no one wants to put themselves in the other person's shoes.  Whether you are in management or in a supportive role, whatever your expectations, not personal perceptions, of others, they should be well-represented accurately and honestly.  Do this and you will reduce the workplace woes that arise when two people just don't seem to get along due to false expectations and personal beliefs.

Nicholl McGuire is a freelance writer, content marketing manager and a professional who has 20 plus years work experience.  Need virtual assistance, click here.

Tuesday

Stressed, Venting About Money, Doing Too Much - A Spiritual Perspective on Simple Living

Are you ready to free yourself from the stressors of having too many people, places and things you are responsible for?  Well look at some personal issues that might contribute to your stress.  Blog owner Nicholl McGuire, also an author, virtual assistant, wife and mother of four explains from a spiritual perspective, listen here.

When it comes to the Workplace, Do You Feel Loved?

What does one have to do to gain a bit of respect at the workplace?  Well, instead of offering the usual tips like: being polite, saying "please" and "thank you," offering to help others, meeting deadlines, etc.  Let's think of some things you might be doing that make employees think less of you.  Then after pondering those things, maybe the light bulb will come on as to why you or someone you know doesn't feel any love from the leadership and/or co-workers.

1.  Have you checked how you talk to the boss and fellow co-workers?  If you find flippant remarks, eye rolls, deep sighs, and more okay to do and don't see anything off-putting about doing these things, know that most likely someone or others do.  Just because no one hasn't said anything  to you doesn't make what you might be doing right.  Chances are someone is going back telling others just how much he or she doesn't like you and the flying monkeys are co-signing on the negativity.

2.  What about the way you keep your work environment?  Is it disorganized, smelly, messy, crowded, offensive like a poster or relic of a controversial leader, entertainer, etc.?  It isn't any wonder why no one wants to come visit your cubicle or office, you are what you represent.

3.  Personal issues?  As much as we think we can separate the two, sometimes we just can't.  A tear falls from your eye when someone mentions your deceased loved one.  The anger is still lingering on your face after an argument with a partner or divorce.  A worker/best friend can see the frustration in your eyes after disputing yet again with children.  The intense looks, impatience, sudden mood swings, and other negativity that shows up periodically will create an intense environment.  People don't want to hang around emotional people.

4.  How about coming in late, leaving early a bit too often or taking far too many days off?  Management and co-workers hate this.  They aren't going to like you too much when you are "That One" who likes to stick them with work to do and will talk badly about you.

5.  Flirting a bit too much with others while wearing clothing to match?  Is it necessary to spend much time smiling and chatting with every attractive person in the office while cleavage or thighs are showing or muscles protruding out of a too tight polo shirt?  Whether you are married, in a relationship or single, doesn't matter, there is a place for all things and during work hours is definitely the wrong time.  Cover up, wear something lose and think about the image you are portraying to others.

6.  Guilty of stinky food?  If not, just skip this, but if so...Why even bother bringing it to your work station everyday?  The stares and noses turned up during lunch are most likely aimed at you.  Workers anticipate their lunch hour and then when it is ruined by something that smells like death or seven old day, sweaty gym shorts, you got to know you won't be liked.

7.  Talk and laugh loudly?  Workers who value peace and quiet and aren't much interested in showy people especially during their break.  They will shoot you daggers with their eyes that say, "Shut the....up!"  Seriously, is anything at work that d*mn funny?

If you passed all seven points made, then good for you, but you still need to know why you don't feel any love from management or co-workers.  How about you start interviewing some folks if it means that much to you.  "Am I doing anything that annoys you?  If so, could you please let me know or tell me if someone else has issue with me?  Thanks."

Nicholl McGuire is the author of many books, spiritually motivates people, and enjoys thinking about the funny stuff that happened while working with and for some of the craziest folks.  (This one goes out to the temp who enjoyed showing us her new dance moves in the cubicle back in the day, so glad she never knocked anything down--seriously we wanted her to sit her tail down eventually she got the message).

Friday

Happy Friday Workplace Subscribers!

I thought I might leave you with a bit of humor this week.  The following slideshow New Toaster might make you laugh or at least smile.  Take some time to do something this weekend like avoid all things related to work if you can.  Spend time with those you love or enjoy relaxing peacefully at home--life is just too short!  Watch slideshow. 

Thursday

Having trouble sending a large file?

You spend hours creating a project and then when it is time to attach it to an email, you have trouble sending it.  The problem is usually resolved depending on what email service you might be using (like Hotmail or Google), because a pop up window just might flash with alternatives.  Dropbox and Google Drive is worth checking into.  Also, My Flare is great too.  You can backup and organize your files online so you never have to worry about losing your work.   

Monday

How to Deal with Workplace Bullies

Workplace bullying is more common than you might think – according to a survey from job-search site CareerBuilder, some form of bullying has been experienced by 28% of U.S. workers. (Link: http://www.cbsnews.com/news/bullying-a-common-problem-at-work/] This bullying can range from verbal abuse to other actions that are harder for the victim to understand – such as purposely not being invited to a meeting or project, being gossiped about, or having different sets of standards and policies applied.

Now that more study is being done on the causes of workplace bullying, it’s also becoming easier to find resources to deal with workplace bullies. According to many experts, the most obvious tactic – confronting the bully face-to-face – is also the tactic that you most want to avoid, especially with your career and reputation on the line.

Instead, the Workplace Bullying Institute recommends a three-step target action plan for dealing with workplace bullies. [Link: http://www.workplacebullying.org/individuals/solutions/wbi-action-plan/]

The first step is coming to grips with the fact that you are being victimized. This means ignoring all of the colorful terms usually used to gloss over workplace bullying – such as the term “difficult boss” – and recognize bullying for what it is.

Once you have accepted that you might be a victim of workplace bullying, the second step is to begin taking steps to ensure your physical and mental health. This includes consulting a therapist or other health expert who can help you with the strong emotions you must be feeling.

It also means doing a check of your physical health, since instances of workplace abuse often lead to physical problems, such as hypertension and chronic headaches. These physical ailments are brought on by the stress of dealing with a bully.

The third step involves a more active phase in dealing with the workplace bully. If you have decided that you wish to remain at your workplace and not find a job elsewhere, then you must begin building a case against the workplace bully that involves specific documentation of what happened and when. It also means researching specific federal and state statutes that might cover workplace bullying under laws dealing with discrimination.

Finally, suggests the Workplace Bullying Institute, you need to build the business case against the workplace bully. Bullies are often effective in wooing others over to their campaign of bullying – usually by forms of subtle intimidation – so you will need to appeal to strict, bottom-line analysis of the problem.

In short, you will need to prove that the workplace bully is simply “bad for business” – he or she is someone who negatively impacts the running of the business or, in extreme cases, is responsible for the loss of clients and revenue.

The risk in all this, however, is that your employer may find grounds to fire you rather than deal with cases of workplace bullying. This is the same problem faced by victims of other bullying – including domestic abuse, in which the veiled threat is that a relationship will end if the bully (the domestic abuser) is exposed.

However, with this three-step approach to dealing with workplace bullies [Link: http://www.workplacebullying.org/individuals/solutions/wbi-action-plan/], you can optimize your chances of dealing successfully with a bully and restoring your work life back to normal.

Saturday

When Your Boss Wants You Gone So Bad He or She Can Taste It

You thought at one time you could really get along with an employer, but unfortunately over the past weeks or years, you realize that the relationship is steadily taking on an ugly turn.  This shift is causing you stress at home and at work.  You don't smile much, are often intense, and don't enjoy performing your job as much as you once did.  It seems every time you look up, your boss is saying or doing something that is making you angry.  You know that he or she would love to see you walk out that door, but you know you can't budge at this time.

So what might you do in the meantime until a new opportunity comes your way?

1.  You will avoid unnecessary conversations with your leader.

If it isn't anything important, why share your personal issues, feelings, weekend experiences, etc.?  He or she isn't your friend.  Be brief, stick to the point when discussing business and excuse yourself if you feel the conversation is becoming personal.

2.  Keep away from his or her buddies.

Sometimes bosses want to see what your next move might be so they will enlist the help of others to pay close attention to what you say and do.  Make sure you are doing your job to the best of your ability and keep personal criticism to yourself.

3.  Find the time during your workday to sit still and meditate your next move for that day.  For instance, if you are supposed to update your boss on something which requires going into his territory, prepare your mind mentally and spiritually prior to the meeting.  Stretch, perform breathing exercises and stare at a motivational image before meeting with him.  Walk confidently when you head toward the board room or other meeting place.  Watch your speech and remain professional at all times even when you are tempted to curse or throw something.  Exercise self-control if you should notice your boss is acting unprofessional.  Remember, he or she wants you gone, so don't give him the excuse or power to end employment on his or her terms.  If you know you have some tasks that must be completed, be sure to organize and complete them sooner rather than later so that your boss isn't following up with you about them. (Note: As much as you might not like your boss, don't come into work tardy, drag your feet when it comes to getting things done, and most of all don't lie or exaggerate accomplishments just to irritate him or her--these things will backfire).

4.  Job search whenever you have free time and avoid using the company computer.

Doing this daily keeps you motivated so that you will not get comfortable nor be blind-sided by your boss one day when he or she says, "Thank you for your service, but I must inform you..."  Keep in mind, companies nowadays terminate employment at will.  So you can have a job one minute and then without reason be escorted out the door in an instant.

5.  Converse with relatives and friends about private matters related to your boss not co-workers.

The more open you are with loved ones, the more supported you will feel and the sting of the workday with a troubled boss won't be so bad.  Express how you feel good, bad or otherwise.  Cry, yell...get some things off your chest so that you don't indirectly explode on them or one day get physical with your boss.  Most of all, pray if you have a faith.  God isn't only in the church or with a holy person you might know.

6.  Focus on the future and not your boss.

When you do this, you are better able to manage your situation.  Negativity gets you nowhere so don't look so closely and so often on the one causing you grief, redirect your focus on to the people, places and things that provide you with hope.

7.  Write future plans down.

Know what you want.  Create a business plan for you!  What is your mission?  How much money do you have to fund your next career move?  How much money do you want to bring in?  What are the gains, risks, etc.?  What are current expenses and how might you cut back? 

There are brighter days ahead, my friend.  Keep the faith and know that learning experiences like the one you are currently in with a mean-spirited boss develop you.  Workplace challenges also remind you to love and appreciate those individuals you should value the most, but sometimes the lust for money and opportunity get in the way.  Go give someone you love a hug!

Nicholl McGuire is the author of many books, see here.

Monday

If You Are Unhappy on a Job then Does Money Really Matter?

For some workers, it doesn't matter how much they are paid if they aren't happy where they work, they don't complain or bad mouth management, they simply look for new employment.  But what do most employees do?  They continue to go into workplaces deeply resentful or their disappointment shows up on their faces.  Yet, they love that money.  Payday is the only time you see some smile.

Only you know how much personal happiness means to you as compared to money.  If all that matters is money, then you most likely will keep suffering, wishing and hoping that things might one day be different.  You will continue to look forward to your paycheck and then once the bills are paid it is back to the scowl, the deep sighs, etc.

Take a moment and pen all the things you like about your job and all the things you don't.  Then begin to check out the classifieds for positions related to what you really like to do.  You may not be ready to leave your current place of work, but at least make an honest effort to see what is out there at least once or twice a week.  Next, talk to others to find out what they like about their jobs and how they cope when things arise that they don't like.  You may find some wisdom in what they say that you can use until you are ready to seek different employment.

Money really shouldn't dictate your happiness when it comes to a job, rather the contentment should come from being grateful that you are able to do something you sincerely don't mind doing.  Too many people have wasted their lives chasing after wealth and in the end were filled with many regrets.  Your self-worth is far greater than your net-worth!

Nicholl McGuire is the author of When Mothers Cry and other books.

Friday

8 Relationship Skills to Help You Be Better at Work

Every business owner, leader and worker have skills that could be refined.  If you don't believe that you don't, can I tell you that is one area you can improve upon.  Take a moment to think about those relationship skills that you lack.  Chances are someone in the group is stressed at times with how you react to them and act with others.


1)  Controlling your temper.


Have you ever witnessed someone yell and curse someone?  How did the incident make you feel?  Even if you felt the individual brought the problem on his or her self, the atmosphere was tensed afterward.  Sometimes people just can't perform well in environments, due to quick-tempered leaders and co-workers.


2)  Handling conflict.


You might be good at controlling your temper, but when it comes to handling conflict with others, you really don't want to get involved.  How might you look to your team?  Employees don't respect you much once they see you are passive when it comes to addressing concerns.  In time, they whisper about wishing for a certain manager to leave, because "He/She is good for nothing."


3)  Avoiding the temptation to take things personal.


How many times have we misunderstood someone at work, at home or elsewhere and assumed that they were being mean, selfish, disrespectful, or vengeful?  Sometimes we have to be reminded, "It's not about you."  Could you use a little improvement in this area?  Less reaction and more action.


4)  Negotiating.


In order to get your needs met, you have to be willing to reach a compromise.  But some people prefer to control people rather than manage situations in such a way that parties are satisfied.  The art of negotiating definitely takes time to master.


5)  Validating others' feelings.


You might have watched how someone tried to explain his or her situation and no matter what was said, the person who was supposed to be listening cut him or her off mid-sentence.  Then there was some denying, fault-finding, blaming, and minimizing that took place.  How do you think that makes the other person feel?


6)  Being understanding.


Maybe an employee's feelings are validated, but when the leader or worker gets around others he or she lacks understanding.  There are negative things said about the employee.  Meanwhile, he or she thought it was a done issue, until word gets back, "The boss doesn't get you..."  Needless to say the environment will become tense.


7)  Acting respectful.


A little respect does go a long way.  Even if two people don't agree, at least there was no name-calling, false assumptions, explosive tempers, and cold-shoulders given.  Can you say that you are sincerely respectful when in a disagreement?


8)  Staying positive.


This is a challenge when your home life is a wreck, you've made many enemies at work, and even your cat runs when you come around.  What is it that motivates you each morning to get up and go to work?  What do you like about your job?


Check out videos about these different skills.  Take notes and start implementing what you have learned.  Change doesn't happen over night, but as long as you are aware of the problem and willing to work on them, then you are a winner!


Nicholl McGuire shares spiritual insight at YouTube channel: nmenterprise7

Saturday

Leading with Emotional Intelligence in the Workplace

Those Crazy People You Work With

Always late
don't check the date
doesn't care about his fate.

Makes an excuse
a recluse
his items not for use.

Talks about stuff
acts confident and rough
runs away when times get tough.

Does things slow doesn't know
fakes knowledge for a show
often stubs her big toe.

Out on leave
needs a reprieve
is he really a she?

Tells many lies
boss sighs
busted than she cries.

Pretends he knows this and even that
sits on his a$$ gets real fat
gone for days--his tire went flat.

Crazy and lazy
a workplace lover boy
uses women like a toy.

Work they don't do much
prefer to talk about such and such.

End of another work day,
this is why so many pray.

Nicholl McGuire shares spiritual insight on YouTube channel: nmenterprise7 Check out her work related audios for insight and encouragement.

Tuesday

What Might Be the Reason that You Struggle at Work?

There may be one major reason or many all wrapped up in one as to why some workers struggle more than others when it comes to the workplace.  Consider your history working with others as well as alone.  What was it like?  What were some things you hated about working and what were some things you loved?

Sometimes we find ourselves in strange predicaments at workplaces, because we simply don't bother to think about the future.  We rush to accept the opportunity, the money, and more without thinking about what we are giving up in the process.  Some of the most successful people in this world are often the most miserable.  They have many toys, connections and more, but after accomplishing much, they either wish for more, grow weary of what they are doing, pass on their legacy to individuals who aren't as passionate about the work, and do other things to distance themselves from what use to be a blessing which is now a curse to them.

Whatever your work might be, know this, you don't have to stay where you are!  You don't have to walk around with regrets while wishing for something else.  You can make a difference!  When you experience a myriad of emotions about your job that are more negative than positive, just know these are signs to make some changes; otherwise, someone will make adjustments sooner or later for you whether you like them or not.

Nicholl McGuire
YouTube channel: nmenterprise7
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Monday

Covert vs. Classic Narcissist at the Workplace?

Too Much Talking - No Wonder Things Don't Get Done

It's Monday morning and conversations about the weekend spread around the office like wildfire, before long it is the end of the work day and only a few things have been accomplished.  Those guilty of spending much time socializing and less time working will start blaming, denying and minimizing about what they should have, could have done by week's end.

If you are in leadership or a worker, you can put a stop to the unnecessary conversation both on and offline early on before it catches up to you by Friday.

1.  Talk while you walk or perform other duties.

Although those who like undivided attention will grimace about this, you will need to do what you can to tackle that task list.  You can always invite the chatty one to help; otherwise, keep it moving!

2.  Interrupt those who are sharing details about themselves and others that are irrelevant to the issues at hand.

There is a time and place for everything, but is it really necessary to listen to someone who has a long list of complaints and no solutions?  Besides, how relevant is the subject matter to what you do at the workplace?

3.  Excuse yourself from meetings that are headed into insignificant discussion.

Fear keeps some workers sitting in rooms watching a self-absorbed boss perform.  So worried that they might look bad exiting a meeting early, workers will sit and sit.  Meanwhile, work isn't getting done.  Will your boss and other leaders be understanding when assignments aren't completed while you say, "Well it's because of all those long meeting you had me sit in is why I was unable to meet deadlines"?

4.  If you are behind in work, come in early or stay late.

Some employees hate the idea of doing this, but when you have no other choice and it seems that you are the one who is always being interrupted by someone who wants to talk your head off, you will need to do what you must.  The alternative is to come up with a better way to distance yourself from the socializing that takes up most of your time during the day.

5.  Avoid the temptation to lie, cover up and do other things to appear like you worked hard during the day when you know differently.

Employees that are repeatedly guilty of exchanging non-related work stories have an arsenal of reasons as to why phone calls were not returned, emails were ignored, and more.  Some leaders will throw workers under the bus when their bosses call them out on unmet demands.  Cover yourself and be sure you are not the one taking up time talking about frivolous things and remind your leadership in writing of what they said they needed to get accomplished by Friday and list what you have been doing to meet goals.

6.  Take responsibility for your inaction, slow responses, and time consuming socializing.

So let's say you or someone you know was busted in the act of wasting valuable company time doing other things.  Do you make excuses for the behavior?  Of course not.  But some will in the hopes of not getting written up or worse fired.  If you know that you should have done better managing your time, confess and do better next time.  For starters, set up a reminder on your phone, computer, tablet and elsewhere to keep you on task.  Set a timer that alerts everyone meeting is over.

7.  Notice what you are doing and not doing that is affecting work flow.

Think of everything you do each day and how much time it takes for you to get things done.  Cut back on some tasks, delegate others, and throw out the useless ones.  Sooner or later, someone will be asking you how you spend your workday.  Be prepared to answer and provide beneficial proof.

The less you talk about frivolous matters at work, while cutting meeting time about significant issues, the more time you will have to get things done and be home with your family.

Nicholl McGuire shares spiritual insight about work, relationships, faith, and more here. 

Sunday

The Trouble About Loving a Job...You Don't Love Your Family Quite As Much

A child's birthday celebration is coming up.  There are after school events worth checking out.  A relative is ill.  A friend hasn't seen you in awhile.  But your job and all that is associated with it, you will put in overtime even when it isn't necessary.  You will go above and beyond to assist the boss, team, and others affiliated with the company.  You will arrive early and stay late.  You will work holidays and weekends whenever called upon.  You love your job more than family.

The messenger isn't being judgmental when he or she calls you out on your "love" for the job, but a disgruntled family member or friend who barely sees, talks, or spends time with you is, and the "shut up" money and gifts are not working like they once did. 

Some of the most successful business owners have done quite well, because they were obsessed with their crafts, but what they won't tell you is that they lost their families and friends during the process.  There are sacrifices that are made and some owners and workers are all-too-willing to give up much to have a life that most dream of while they smile and act polite with the team and act mean-spirited and annoyed with their families and friends.

When one has found some sense of personal satisfaction at work and with family, he or she performs well with both.  A person, who has a love for job, but not so much for family, has to figure out how to make certain adjustments that will appease parties personally and professionally.  Will there be challenges?  Of course, but as long as one knows and accepts the truth that he or she loves that job more than family and is willing to make wrongs right, he or she will  do some things differently.

If you are guilty of loving work more than family, list what you can do to make life better on the home front.  If you know someone like this and you can clearly see he or she is losing his or her family, speak up, listen to his or her issues, and provide some advice.  Take the time to do research on how to balance workplace and home life effectively and share what you have learned.

To your happiness,

Nicholl McGuire has spiritual videos related to business at YouTube channel: nmenterprise7

Dealing With Getting Laid Off

Friday

Rejected Resumes

With so many people applying for jobs, it doesn't take much for a human resources staff member to reject your resume.  From typos to professional groups that sound controversial, there could be any number of reasons why a resume was rejected.  Find out why when you have no clue as to why it happened to you.  Job centers can help with this and so can professionals online who work in human resources.

Personnel who sit in front of a long list of resumes see what's on paper, but not human beings.  But you are a human and sometimes you have to step out of virtual world and make yourself be seen.

Some unemployed professionals will pick up the phone and introduce themselves, attend job fairs, meet people at events, and volunteer. Whatever you choose to do, be sure that someone in charge of resumes sees you as a human being.

Nicholl McGuire

Thursday

What Human Resources Won't Tell You About Employee Layoffs, Downsizing, and Reductions In Force

This is an insightful hub page that provides details on what Human Resources won't tell you about your job status.  Created by someone who worked in HR, you will find her knowledge quite valuable on the subject.  Use the information to plan ahead!  To your success!  Link available below.

What HR Won't Tell You About Employee Layoffs, Downsizing, and Reductions In Force




Friday

Do You Care About Your Job? Management Look for Faults, Cut Jobs, Save Money

The economy has been a hot topic in the media for some time and it only seems to be getting hotter with all the buzz over the years about economic stimulation plans.  Companies have always had plans of their own to save money (not so much face) and it always seems to boil down to job cuts.  
One way they go about choosing who will stay and who will go is to look for faults they will have ordinarily overlooked.  Let's say that you usually are the one who shows up for work a few minutes late, but you stay late to make up the difference, this may not have ever been an issue but it starts to become one for a business owner, boss or supervisor who is looking to cut some jobs. 


While you go about your daily business in this mock scenario, a group had already met and wanted the answer to the following question, "What will be the checklist we will follow to start eliminating some jobs?"  A leader makes a suggestion, "Let's definitely start looking closely at those individuals who like to come in tardy."  A supervisor says, "What about those ones who often stay late and we pay them over time?"  Others make suggestions, "Hey let's take a look at the workers who have been out for a long time and what about those parents who are always looking to leave early for one thing or another related to their children?  How are these family distractions affecting their work performances?"
Meanwhile, those who are not privy to such confidential meetings are being watched, actions or inactions are being documented, and the plan is to let them go sooner rather than later.  There won't be too much talk about one's work performance, warnings will appear harmless, and meetings will seem like business as usual.  Employees who have been sitting comfortably for awhile now are surprised when change becomes evident and a good buddy or favorite leaders are no longer working at the company.
Start the process of securing your job even if your efforts mean nothing to corporate, do what you can to stand out from the rest anyway.  You know what you have been doing and not doing lately at work, so make a difference.  Change your attitude.  Cut down on the negative talk and complaints.  Watch expressing your bold opinions to leadership.  Other things you might want to do:
  • Correct your own faults rather than point out others.
  • Look for ways to save the company money and time.
  • Direct the manager's attention to misdeeds.
  • Smile more and act like you care about your job.
  • Write your ideas down make a copy and submit to those who can help you keep your job.
  • Research what your company's competitors are up to and share your findings with leadership.
  • Read books and attend classes about what you do and how you can do it more effectively.
  • Volunteer or offer to work longer hours when you can.
Sometimes, no matter what you do, some leaders have to make the difficult decision to let employees go anyway.  But at least you went out doing the best you could if this happens to you.  Remember to get those letters of recommendation!
Nicholl McGuire provides website content and administrative support to individuals and businesses on and offline.  See her Linked In profile page here.
 

Sunday

When You Know Co-Workers Don't Like You

There are those things we think that are often left unsaid at a workplace.  You know those co-worker issues that don't look or feel right, but if you say something, it won't matter anyway.  You most likely have watched what happened to others who tried to make some changes.

Co-workers have their reasons for not liking someone.  It could be any number of factors: tardiness, negative comments, not being helpful, jealousy, unresolved issues from the past, personal prejudice, etc.  Yet, with some people you can't detect these things until you happen to see a dirty look, hear a deep sigh, notice a negative body gesture, hear something from someone else, or another negative sign.  However, you can confront these people on this.  There are many ways to do this as shown around the web, but the question remains is it worth it?

1.  Mention how you feel to a leader or someone who knows the boss.

If you should do this, you will want to explain things in such a way where you are not pointing the finger or making the person feel as if you are a scolding parent or critical partner.  If you need some examples on how to talk about what bothers you, look online for "ways to talk to difficult people" or "how to communicate to boss."

2.  Ignore co-workers who are not in your department.

Sometimes people bring more drama on themselves, because they volunteer for tasks or end up in workplace areas they don't need to be.  When you know there are people at a location that don't like you, why go over there?  If a boss or supervisor should inquire why you stopped going in the area, simply say, "I don't feel comfortable."  Avoid name-dropping unless you have to, because sometimes leaders are friendly or have family or civic connections with trouble-making workers.

3.  Avoid the negative attitude of  those you have to work with.

Some will try to trap you into a debate or get a rise out of you because they don't want you working with them.  So if they can get you to react negatively, then they will be able to go complaining to the boss about how you make them feel.  Meanwhile, they were the culprit all along.  Some leaders refuse to see this or are too uncaring and busy to bother.  Don't argue if you should mention the issue to a boss, rather stick to how the conflict might be affecting workflow.  A leader who is very concerned about work productivity will address any and everything that affects his or her position, corporate money and reputation!

4.  Start looking for another job.

Sometimes it can be disheartening to have to leave a job you really like due to people who just refuse to get along with you.  However, don't start looking unless the following is happening to you: your relationship is rocky due to your negative attitude when you get off of work, the tensed atmosphere is affecting your work, you feel like leadership is not doing anything to manage the conflict, and your health is being affected (i.e. sleepless nights, headaches, heart problems, frequent stomach upset, impatience, and emotional outbursts with your family.)

Keep in mind, there will always be someone somewhere who will have issues with you whether they verbalize them or not.  Yet, be strong anyway.  Know that you don't have to put up with anyone being emotionally and/or physically abusive to you at work.  No amount of money is worth being abused!

Nicholl McGuire shares spiritual insight on YouTube channel: http://www.youtube.com/nmenterprise7

Wednesday

When It Comes to a Boss You Absolutely Hate...

Learn to keep your mouth shut if you know you just can't seem to formulate the right words to describe him or her or express what you don't like about his or her actions.  Who knows, you just might go far in the company, but talk too much, especially to the wrong people, then don't wonder why you have the problems you do at work.

Saturday

What Are You to Your Boss - The Mistress, The Spouse, The Friend, or Just What You Should Be

Have you ever felt that you or someone you know is in to deep with the leadership?  You know that one or two or maybe a few favorite employees that seem to be a bit too friendly with the owner, boss, manager, or supervisor.  There is a reason why family and friends really shouldn't be working in the same atmosphere or even the same company, yet some will do it anyway.  Then there are those who will make new friends and get a little too attached and personal quite quickly.

Some workers will view their relationship with a boss like they do an intimate partner.  The boss becomes like a spouse to them who manages their household via advice and acts like it is "me and you baby against the world" in a workplace setting.  This is of course an inappropriate relationship whether imagined or real with a boss.  Yet, some employees have the "office door closed" kind of relationship where loyalty looks more like a marriage than a boss and employee workplace partnership.  If one should have an issue with the boss, like a spouse, he or she will defend the man or woman whether right or wrong.

Young professionals fall easily into deceptive, controlling, and manipulative arrangements with bosses.  They assume they are favored employees because the boss gives them a gift, preferential treatment, and appears to like them very much, but for some bosses they are simply using and unfortunately abusing the gullible types.  The single, young employees work for free or for little hourly pay and sometimes for very long hours especially if they don't have children.  They conduct business in sub-par or unsafe workplace settings with little or no complaints.  For some attractive employees, they are treated like eye candy rather than intelligent human beings. Those in need of attention will latch on to the charming boss whether he or she is aware or not.

The Mistress relationship with a boss is quite simple.  He or she is not the go-to person, but the one called upon when needed or used to get even with someone.  This person will take what he or she can get for a time until the individual realizes the workplace/relationship is headed toward a dead end. There are no more promotions, pay increases, special favor, gifts, or anything else.  The Mistress is often thrown under the bus when things get hot at the workplace.  For instance, money shows up missing, records are inaccurate, sales are down, and other things, the boss will orchestrate a plan to get the Mistress' hands dirty when in a jam.  This way if something comes up, the boss' wasn't responsible for the task, the Mistress was.  The worker decorates his or herself up beautifully, flirts, charms, and does any number of things to draw attention to his or herself including having sex with the boss.

Many employees make the error of being a friend to the boss and vice versa.  These people are led by their emotions rather than intelligence when it comes to performing tasks given to them.  They equate much of their relationship with their bosses to feelings.  They will even say, "I feel that the boss would want this...and I know him well..." These "friends" to the boss are not like professionals when it comes to getting a job done, rather they are laid back when speaking to a boss--sometimes disrespectfully, emotional at times sharing far too much about their personal lives, and will become easily offended when a boss says something they don't like.  They also expect much since they claim to know their manager very well and will try to convince others to do certain things for him or her whether good, bad or otherwise.  These employees who consider themselves to be friends will go out with the boss, attend social events together, and enjoy receiving perks because they are "good friends" with the leadership.  But in time, the assumed friendship will turn ugly because sometimes friends don't know how to separate business from pleasure.  Everything becomes personal, from the way the boss looks at them to the tone of voice he or she uses during a meeting.  Tension will grow between friends and before long someone is walking out or being terminated.

So what are you really to your boss?  You should be a worker.  One who doesn't mix business with pleasure.  Someone who doesn't wear his or her feelings on your sleeve.  An employee who is focused on meeting company goals and willing to get paid what you are worth based on your workplace performance not the way you look, the history you have with a boss, special treatment, and more.  There is a thin line between love and hate at home and so too it is at work, and if you cross the line doing things that have nothing to do with your role at home and at work, you will get burned.

Nicholl McGuire shares spiritual insight on YouTube channel: nmenterprise7

Thursday

Let Go of a Past Job - You Don't Work There Anymore

A woman shared with me how her boss was always bringing up experiences she encountered when she used to work for XYZ company.  "You know when I was there, we did this...We also did that...I really enjoyed that place.," the boss would tell staff members during meetings.  "Maybe we should do some things like them...When I worked there, we..."  So what do you think the employee and the rest of the staff were saying to themselves, "Well, you don't work there anymore!  And if it was so great, then why are you here with us?"


It is never a good idea to talk so much about a previous employer especially at a meeting.  Chances are someone just might go back and share one's experiences with the wrong person on a bad day.  Just imagine, "You know Jack is always talking about when he worked for Jill at Pail Enterprises.  He doesn't spend nearly as much time talking about work related business."  What do you think an owner might say about Jack talking so highly about the competition? 


The only time it is a good idea to bring up the past is if it is going to do two things: save time or money and even then, why mention the company?  Why not say, "I have a great idea, why don't we try doing...?"  Instead of, "When I worked for XYZ, we did a phenomenal job doing this...our team was very efficient and we got along so well."  Can you honestly say something like this about a previous employer without appearing prideful?  But some employees, do just that!  They actually cause division among the staff.  Rather than the focus being on the business at hand, everyone is focused on what a boss or employee said about his or her past experiences working with this company and that one.


The same woman who shared her past work history with the staff about her braggart boss, who loved to talk about her past employer, didn't look so happy.  The worker also showed clear signs she didn't like management too much either.  She mentioned someone complaining to the man, who hired her boss and him responding with, "I already know about her and she is good.  I hired her."  He said nothing addressing the issue and did nothing.  Fortunately, these days he is no longer her boss, his job is now available.


If you happen to be around such a person, who still is very much in love with his or her previous workplace, and doesn't mind telling the world about it, why not say, "Would you like to go back there?  Maybe we could make that happen."  This would send a clear sign to him or her to slow down with all the past employer talk.  Share with a superior that the past story-telling is annoying.  But if you are the one doing the bragging about the past, let this be a wake-up call to you, cut it out, because you aren't winning any new friends.


Nicholl McGuire 

Sunday

No Blog, Add Our Workplace Blog to Your Website

If you are a small business owner, seller of goods, or have some other business and you have no blog, why not link to us?


This blog has been around for many years.  We share helpful material related to workplace challenges with leaders and workers in a variety of industries from law to publishing.  Our readers visit our site in search of tips and resources to help them solve common workplace issues.  If you have no blog, don't bother starting one, why not link to us? 


Post a link to our blog on your site.  By doing this, you will bring more useful information to your audience.  Let us know you did and we will be sure to add you to ours!


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