Sunday

When You Know Co-Workers Don't Like You

There are those things we think that are often left unsaid at a workplace.  You know those co-worker issues that don't look or feel right, but if you say something, it won't matter anyway.  You most likely have watched what happened to others who tried to make some changes.

Co-workers have their reasons for not liking someone.  It could be any number of factors: tardiness, negative comments, not being helpful, jealousy, unresolved issues from the past, personal prejudice, etc.  Yet, with some people you can't detect these things until you happen to see a dirty look, hear a deep sigh, notice a negative body gesture, hear something from someone else, or another negative sign.  However, you can confront these people on this.  There are many ways to do this as shown around the web, but the question remains is it worth it?

1.  Mention how you feel to a leader or someone who knows the boss.

If you should do this, you will want to explain things in such a way where you are not pointing the finger or making the person feel as if you are a scolding parent or critical partner.  If you need some examples on how to talk about what bothers you, look online for "ways to talk to difficult people" or "how to communicate to boss."

2.  Ignore co-workers who are not in your department.

Sometimes people bring more drama on themselves, because they volunteer for tasks or end up in workplace areas they don't need to be.  When you know there are people at a location that don't like you, why go over there?  If a boss or supervisor should inquire why you stopped going in the area, simply say, "I don't feel comfortable."  Avoid name-dropping unless you have to, because sometimes leaders are friendly or have family or civic connections with trouble-making workers.

3.  Avoid the negative attitude of  those you have to work with.

Some will try to trap you into a debate or get a rise out of you because they don't want you working with them.  So if they can get you to react negatively, then they will be able to go complaining to the boss about how you make them feel.  Meanwhile, they were the culprit all along.  Some leaders refuse to see this or are too uncaring and busy to bother.  Don't argue if you should mention the issue to a boss, rather stick to how the conflict might be affecting workflow.  A leader who is very concerned about work productivity will address any and everything that affects his or her position, corporate money and reputation!

4.  Start looking for another job.

Sometimes it can be disheartening to have to leave a job you really like due to people who just refuse to get along with you.  However, don't start looking unless the following is happening to you: your relationship is rocky due to your negative attitude when you get off of work, the tensed atmosphere is affecting your work, you feel like leadership is not doing anything to manage the conflict, and your health is being affected (i.e. sleepless nights, headaches, heart problems, frequent stomach upset, impatience, and emotional outbursts with your family.)

Keep in mind, there will always be someone somewhere who will have issues with you whether they verbalize them or not.  Yet, be strong anyway.  Know that you don't have to put up with anyone being emotionally and/or physically abusive to you at work.  No amount of money is worth being abused!

Nicholl McGuire shares spiritual insight on YouTube channel: http://www.youtube.com/nmenterprise7

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