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How To Start A Conversation With Celebrity Fans - Relationship Building to Get What You Want

Your boss or someone you are trying to impress shares with you that they are “the biggest XYZ fan!”  You should be thinking at that moment, “When opportunity knocks, take it!”  They begin to tell you about favorite movies they have watched with the celebrity in them.  They add they personally met him or her somewhere and they are “so nice!”  Meanwhile, you don’t know much about the celebrity, but you may want to know more, since this big fan of XYZ’s is important to you and may be able to help you in the future. 

The following tips are great conversation starters and ideas on how you can get on the excited fan’s good side.  When performed gradually and not daily or every week, you will build a positive relationship with that important person and will not appear to look like the teacher’s pet or a stalker.

1. If the celebrity is an actor, pick a few specific scenes from movies that he or she has performed (other than the nudity shots) that will start a conversation.  Know the names of some of their early movies.  If the celebrity is a singer, comedian or dancer, know about a few places they have entertained audiences throw some years in so that you look like you know what you are talking about.  For athletes, politicians, speakers, ministers, etc. mention books they have written, most exciting moments on television, opportunities you may have got to meet them, etc.

2. If you remember the celebrity, on a talk show, mention the conversation he or she had with the host.  Comment on what was said and how he or she looked.  If you can’t remember, visit a website that you can search for past television shows in the celebrity’s name.

3. Find a collectible, whimsical gift, book, magazine or product the celebrity may have created.  The fan will appreciate your thoughtfulness.  However, when buying books, don’t buy unofficial autobiographies.  They are not celebrity endorsed.  Also, don’t burn copies of DVDs and music it is illegal and most of all tacky.

4. Know some general facts about the celebrity.  Birthdays, where they were born, how they got their name to fame, personal likes and dislikes, marriages, divorces, etc.  Also, look for little known facts, like the nickname their mom gave them or a funny event that happened to them in grade school.

5. Find current news about the celebrity.  Is she pregnant?  Is she getting married?  Does she have a new film?  When will his new album be released?  Where will the band perform?

6. Rumors are interesting, but be careful how you deliver them and which ones to select when conversing with the fan.  If you should mention one, ask rather than tell.  “I heard that XYZ was seen doing…..do you think that is true?” 

7. Invite them to see a movie or a concert with the beloved celebrity performing.

8. If the excited fan says at any time, “Oh, I didn’t know you were a XYZ fan…”  Nonchalantly say, “I like to read about celebrities from time to time.”  You don’t want your intentions to lead to false hopes for the fan such as, “We can start a fan club?”  or “Let’s hang outside her home or visit her on the set!”  Nor, do you want future conversations to become nothing more than about a celebrity.  Find a way to ease your intentions into each conversation.  This is just a start in trying to build a positive relationship with this person.

9. Surprise the fan by taking them to a place the celebrity may have visited, auditioned, a past movie set, a place she grew up or a business they have established.

10. Share information with the fan about your favorite celebrity.  Who knows, maybe one day you might receive a really nice gift.

Since so many people adore celebrities, you might as well use what you know to get on someone's good side!  Utilize the tips and hopefully one day you will reap the benefits of creating a positive connection with someone (who might be a bit difficult to work with).


 
Nicholl McGuire is the author of What Else Can I Do on the Internet?

8 Relationship Skills to Help You Be Better at Work

Every business owner, leader and worker have skills that could be refined.  If you don't believe that you don't, can I tell you that is one area you can improve upon.  Take a moment to think about those relationship skills that you lack.  Chances are someone in the group is stressed at times with how you react to them and act with others.


1)  Controlling your temper.


Have you ever witnessed someone yell and curse someone?  How did the incident make you feel?  Even if you felt the individual brought the problem on his or her self, the atmosphere was tensed afterward.  Sometimes people just can't perform well in environments, due to quick-tempered leaders and co-workers.


2)  Handling conflict.


You might be good at controlling your temper, but when it comes to handling conflict with others, you really don't want to get involved.  How might you look to your team?  Employees don't respect you much once they see you are passive when it comes to addressing concerns.  In time, they whisper about wishing for a certain manager to leave, because "He/She is good for nothing."


3)  Avoiding the temptation to take things personal.


How many times have we misunderstood someone at work, at home or elsewhere and assumed that they were being mean, selfish, disrespectful, or vengeful?  Sometimes we have to be reminded, "It's not about you."  Could you use a little improvement in this area?  Less reaction and more action.


4)  Negotiating.


In order to get your needs met, you have to be willing to reach a compromise.  But some people prefer to control people rather than manage situations in such a way that parties are satisfied.  The art of negotiating definitely takes time to master.


5)  Validating others' feelings.


You might have watched how someone tried to explain his or her situation and no matter what was said, the person who was supposed to be listening cut him or her off mid-sentence.  Then there was some denying, fault-finding, blaming, and minimizing that took place.  How do you think that makes the other person feel?


6)  Being understanding.


Maybe an employee's feelings are validated, but when the leader or worker gets around others he or she lacks understanding.  There are negative things said about the employee.  Meanwhile, he or she thought it was a done issue, until word gets back, "The boss doesn't get you..."  Needless to say the environment will become tense.


7)  Acting respectful.


A little respect does go a long way.  Even if two people don't agree, at least there was no name-calling, false assumptions, explosive tempers, and cold-shoulders given.  Can you say that you are sincerely respectful when in a disagreement?


8)  Staying positive.


This is a challenge when your home life is a wreck, you've made many enemies at work, and even your cat runs when you come around.  What is it that motivates you each morning to get up and go to work?  What do you like about your job?


Check out videos about these different skills.  Take notes and start implementing what you have learned.  Change doesn't happen over night, but as long as you are aware of the problem and willing to work on them, then you are a winner!


Nicholl McGuire shares spiritual insight at YouTube channel: nmenterprise7