Showing posts with label jealous co-workers. Show all posts
Showing posts with label jealous co-workers. Show all posts
Sunday
When You Know Co-Workers Don't Like You
There are those things we think that are often left unsaid at a workplace. You know those co-worker issues that don't look or feel right, but if you say something, it won't matter anyway. You most likely have watched what happened to others who tried to make some changes.
Co-workers have their reasons for not liking someone. It could be any number of factors: tardiness, negative comments, not being helpful, jealousy, unresolved issues from the past, personal prejudice, etc. Yet, with some people you can't detect these things until you happen to see a dirty look, hear a deep sigh, notice a negative body gesture, hear something from someone else, or another negative sign. However, you can confront these people on this. There are many ways to do this as shown around the web, but the question remains is it worth it?
1. Mention how you feel to a leader or someone who knows the boss.
If you should do this, you will want to explain things in such a way where you are not pointing the finger or making the person feel as if you are a scolding parent or critical partner. If you need some examples on how to talk about what bothers you, look online for "ways to talk to difficult people" or "how to communicate to boss."
2. Ignore co-workers who are not in your department.
Sometimes people bring more drama on themselves, because they volunteer for tasks or end up in workplace areas they don't need to be. When you know there are people at a location that don't like you, why go over there? If a boss or supervisor should inquire why you stopped going in the area, simply say, "I don't feel comfortable." Avoid name-dropping unless you have to, because sometimes leaders are friendly or have family or civic connections with trouble-making workers.
3. Avoid the negative attitude of those you have to work with.
Some will try to trap you into a debate or get a rise out of you because they don't want you working with them. So if they can get you to react negatively, then they will be able to go complaining to the boss about how you make them feel. Meanwhile, they were the culprit all along. Some leaders refuse to see this or are too uncaring and busy to bother. Don't argue if you should mention the issue to a boss, rather stick to how the conflict might be affecting workflow. A leader who is very concerned about work productivity will address any and everything that affects his or her position, corporate money and reputation!
4. Start looking for another job.
Sometimes it can be disheartening to have to leave a job you really like due to people who just refuse to get along with you. However, don't start looking unless the following is happening to you: your relationship is rocky due to your negative attitude when you get off of work, the tensed atmosphere is affecting your work, you feel like leadership is not doing anything to manage the conflict, and your health is being affected (i.e. sleepless nights, headaches, heart problems, frequent stomach upset, impatience, and emotional outbursts with your family.)
Keep in mind, there will always be someone somewhere who will have issues with you whether they verbalize them or not. Yet, be strong anyway. Know that you don't have to put up with anyone being emotionally and/or physically abusive to you at work. No amount of money is worth being abused!
Nicholl McGuire shares spiritual insight on YouTube channel: http://www.youtube.com/nmenterprise7
Co-workers have their reasons for not liking someone. It could be any number of factors: tardiness, negative comments, not being helpful, jealousy, unresolved issues from the past, personal prejudice, etc. Yet, with some people you can't detect these things until you happen to see a dirty look, hear a deep sigh, notice a negative body gesture, hear something from someone else, or another negative sign. However, you can confront these people on this. There are many ways to do this as shown around the web, but the question remains is it worth it?
1. Mention how you feel to a leader or someone who knows the boss.
If you should do this, you will want to explain things in such a way where you are not pointing the finger or making the person feel as if you are a scolding parent or critical partner. If you need some examples on how to talk about what bothers you, look online for "ways to talk to difficult people" or "how to communicate to boss."
2. Ignore co-workers who are not in your department.
Sometimes people bring more drama on themselves, because they volunteer for tasks or end up in workplace areas they don't need to be. When you know there are people at a location that don't like you, why go over there? If a boss or supervisor should inquire why you stopped going in the area, simply say, "I don't feel comfortable." Avoid name-dropping unless you have to, because sometimes leaders are friendly or have family or civic connections with trouble-making workers.
3. Avoid the negative attitude of those you have to work with.
Some will try to trap you into a debate or get a rise out of you because they don't want you working with them. So if they can get you to react negatively, then they will be able to go complaining to the boss about how you make them feel. Meanwhile, they were the culprit all along. Some leaders refuse to see this or are too uncaring and busy to bother. Don't argue if you should mention the issue to a boss, rather stick to how the conflict might be affecting workflow. A leader who is very concerned about work productivity will address any and everything that affects his or her position, corporate money and reputation!
4. Start looking for another job.
Sometimes it can be disheartening to have to leave a job you really like due to people who just refuse to get along with you. However, don't start looking unless the following is happening to you: your relationship is rocky due to your negative attitude when you get off of work, the tensed atmosphere is affecting your work, you feel like leadership is not doing anything to manage the conflict, and your health is being affected (i.e. sleepless nights, headaches, heart problems, frequent stomach upset, impatience, and emotional outbursts with your family.)
Keep in mind, there will always be someone somewhere who will have issues with you whether they verbalize them or not. Yet, be strong anyway. Know that you don't have to put up with anyone being emotionally and/or physically abusive to you at work. No amount of money is worth being abused!
Nicholl McGuire shares spiritual insight on YouTube channel: http://www.youtube.com/nmenterprise7
Monday
Jealous Co-workers: Have you had enough yet?
Are you the victim of jealous co-workers? You know the type that have nothing better to do, but to comment on how you look, the way you walk, and the way you interact with the boss and other co-workers. People like this can easily be put in their place.
First, you will want to document what you notice about the person causing you grief. Is she disrupting work-flow by her comments? Is she bothering you by coming over to your workspace disrupting you? You will want to file a complaint with the supervisor, human resources and/or the "big boss."
Sometimes jealous co-workers try to befriend everyone in the workplace just so that they appear like they are friendly and are good workers. However, most observant workers know better, and don't bother to deal with these type of people on a daily basis. Any contact with them is strictly related to business.
The next thing you will want to do when dealing with a jealous co-worker is limit your conversation. It isn't necessary to exchange pleasantries with this person or update he or she on things like, what happened over the weekend and other personal stories. Cut your enemy out of your personal life and watch him closely in your professional life.
Lastly, you will want to make sure that you don't have to rely on this person for too much. Do what you must to limit your activity around him or her. Don't trust this person with your passwords or keys. Don't always believe everything he or she says, check behind him or her.
If you relax around a jealous person and put too much trust in him or her to handle a task on a consistent basis, keep a secret, or assist you when you are in a bind, you are asking for trouble!
When you know someone is jealous of you, someone in the workplace should know about some of your experiences with this person. Avoid name-calling or saying things that look like you are in fact the one who is jealous of your enemy. By sharing your story with a trusted supervisor or boss, this will protect you in case the jealous person attempts to set you up by making a false accusation or doing something sneaky to get you written up or worse fired in the future. Be sure you document what date and time you talked with someone else about the issue, as well as all things pertaining to this person who is jealous of you. When detailing the jealous person's activities, remember to include a date and time too.
Nicholl McGuire
To learn more about this writer, visit this site.
First, you will want to document what you notice about the person causing you grief. Is she disrupting work-flow by her comments? Is she bothering you by coming over to your workspace disrupting you? You will want to file a complaint with the supervisor, human resources and/or the "big boss."
Sometimes jealous co-workers try to befriend everyone in the workplace just so that they appear like they are friendly and are good workers. However, most observant workers know better, and don't bother to deal with these type of people on a daily basis. Any contact with them is strictly related to business.
The next thing you will want to do when dealing with a jealous co-worker is limit your conversation. It isn't necessary to exchange pleasantries with this person or update he or she on things like, what happened over the weekend and other personal stories. Cut your enemy out of your personal life and watch him closely in your professional life.
Lastly, you will want to make sure that you don't have to rely on this person for too much. Do what you must to limit your activity around him or her. Don't trust this person with your passwords or keys. Don't always believe everything he or she says, check behind him or her.
If you relax around a jealous person and put too much trust in him or her to handle a task on a consistent basis, keep a secret, or assist you when you are in a bind, you are asking for trouble!
When you know someone is jealous of you, someone in the workplace should know about some of your experiences with this person. Avoid name-calling or saying things that look like you are in fact the one who is jealous of your enemy. By sharing your story with a trusted supervisor or boss, this will protect you in case the jealous person attempts to set you up by making a false accusation or doing something sneaky to get you written up or worse fired in the future. Be sure you document what date and time you talked with someone else about the issue, as well as all things pertaining to this person who is jealous of you. When detailing the jealous person's activities, remember to include a date and time too.
Nicholl McGuire
To learn more about this writer, visit this site.
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