When You Know Co-Workers Don't Like You

There are those things we think that are often left unsaid at a workplace.  You know those co-worker issues that don't look or feel right, but if you say something, it won't matter anyway.  You most likely have watched what happened to others who tried to make some changes.

Co-workers have their reasons for not liking someone.  It could be any number of factors: tardiness, negative comments, not being helpful, jealousy, unresolved issues from the past, personal prejudice, etc.  Yet, with some people you can't detect these things until you happen to see a dirty look, hear a deep sigh, notice a negative body gesture, hear something from someone else, or another negative sign.  However, you can confront these people on this.  There are many ways to do this as shown around the web, but the question remains is it worth it?

1.  Mention how you feel to a leader or someone who knows the boss.

If you should do this, you will want to explain things in such a way where you are not pointing the finger or making the person feel as if you are a scolding parent or critical partner.  If you need some examples on how to talk about what bothers you, look online for "ways to talk to difficult people" or "how to communicate to boss."

2.  Ignore co-workers who are not in your department.

Sometimes people bring more drama on themselves, because they volunteer for tasks or end up in workplace areas they don't need to be.  When you know there are people at a location that don't like you, why go over there?  If a boss or supervisor should inquire why you stopped going in the area, simply say, "I don't feel comfortable."  Avoid name-dropping unless you have to, because sometimes leaders are friendly or have family or civic connections with trouble-making workers.

3.  Avoid the negative attitude of  those you have to work with.

Some will try to trap you into a debate or get a rise out of you because they don't want you working with them.  So if they can get you to react negatively, then they will be able to go complaining to the boss about how you make them feel.  Meanwhile, they were the culprit all along.  Some leaders refuse to see this or are too uncaring and busy to bother.  Don't argue if you should mention the issue to a boss, rather stick to how the conflict might be affecting workflow.  A leader who is very concerned about work productivity will address any and everything that affects his or her position, corporate money and reputation!

4.  Start looking for another job.

Sometimes it can be disheartening to have to leave a job you really like due to people who just refuse to get along with you.  However, don't start looking unless the following is happening to you: your relationship is rocky due to your negative attitude when you get off of work, the tensed atmosphere is affecting your work, you feel like leadership is not doing anything to manage the conflict, and your health is being affected (i.e. sleepless nights, headaches, heart problems, frequent stomach upset, impatience, and emotional outbursts with your family.)

Keep in mind, there will always be someone somewhere who will have issues with you whether they verbalize them or not.  Yet, be strong anyway.  Know that you don't have to put up with anyone being emotionally and/or physically abusive to you at work.  No amount of money is worth being abused!

Nicholl McGuire shares spiritual insight on YouTube channel: http://www.youtube.com/nmenterprise7

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What Are You to Your Boss - The Mistress, The Spouse, The Friend, or Just What You Should Be

Have you ever felt that you or someone you know is in to deep with the leadership?  You know that one or two or maybe a few favorite employees that seem to be a bit too friendly with the owner, boss, manager, or supervisor.  There is a reason why family and friends really shouldn't be working in the same atmosphere or even the same company, yet some will do it anyway.  Then there are those who will make new friends and get a little too attached and personal quite quickly.

Some workers will view their relationship with a boss like they do an intimate partner.  The boss becomes like a spouse to them who manages their household via advice and acts like it is "me and you baby against the world" in a workplace setting.  This is of course an inappropriate relationship whether imagined or real with a boss.  Yet, some employees have the "office door closed" kind of relationship where loyalty looks more like a marriage than a boss and employee workplace partnership.  If one should have an issue with the boss, like a spouse, he or she will defend the man or woman whether right or wrong.

Young professionals fall easily into deceptive, controlling, and manipulative arrangements with bosses.  They assume they are favored employees because the boss gives them a gift, preferential treatment, and appears to like them very much, but for some bosses they are simply using and unfortunately abusing the gullible types.  The single, young employees work for free or for little hourly pay and sometimes for very long hours especially if they don't have children.  They conduct business in sub-par or unsafe workplace settings with little or no complaints.  For some attractive employees, they are treated like eye candy rather than intelligent human beings. Those in need of attention will latch on to the charming boss whether he or she is aware or not.

The Mistress relationship with a boss is quite simple.  He or she is not the go-to person, but the one called upon when needed or used to get even with someone.  This person will take what he or she can get for a time until the individual realizes the workplace/relationship is headed toward a dead end. There are no more promotions, pay increases, special favor, gifts, or anything else.  The Mistress is often thrown under the bus when things get hot at the workplace.  For instance, money shows up missing, records are inaccurate, sales are down, and other things, the boss will orchestrate a plan to get the Mistress' hands dirty when in a jam.  This way if something comes up, the boss' wasn't responsible for the task, the Mistress was.  The worker decorates his or herself up beautifully, flirts, charms, and does any number of things to draw attention to his or herself including having sex with the boss.

Many employees make the error of being a friend to the boss and vice versa.  These people are led by their emotions rather than intelligence when it comes to performing tasks given to them.  They equate much of their relationship with their bosses to feelings.  They will even say, "I feel that the boss would want this...and I know him well..." These "friends" to the boss are not like professionals when it comes to getting a job done, rather they are laid back when speaking to a boss--sometimes disrespectfully, emotional at times sharing far too much about their personal lives, and will become easily offended when a boss says something they don't like.  They also expect much since they claim to know their manager very well and will try to convince others to do certain things for him or her whether good, bad or otherwise.  These employees who consider themselves to be friends will go out with the boss, attend social events together, and enjoy receiving perks because they are "good friends" with the leadership.  But in time, the assumed friendship will turn ugly because sometimes friends don't know how to separate business from pleasure.  Everything becomes personal, from the way the boss looks at them to the tone of voice he or she uses during a meeting.  Tension will grow between friends and before long someone is walking out or being terminated.

So what are you really to your boss?  You should be a worker.  One who doesn't mix business with pleasure.  Someone who doesn't wear his or her feelings on your sleeve.  An employee who is focused on meeting company goals and willing to get paid what you are worth based on your workplace performance not the way you look, the history you have with a boss, special treatment, and more.  There is a thin line between love and hate at home and so too it is at work, and if you cross the line doing things that have nothing to do with your role at home and at work, you will get burned.

Nicholl McGuire shares spiritual insight on YouTube channel: nmenterprise7