Why would any woman or man in a relationship riddled with
lies, emotional abuse, and other ugly things want to quit a job? Wouldn’t he or she need money especially if
the relationship is coming to a slow end?
For some heartbroken couples, it is easier for them to cope by creating distractions
rather than addressing issues. Blaming
the job causes them to focus on something other than the spouse or partner who
really needs to go!
Being in an unsatisfying relationship will make you think
that issues you are faced with are really not at home especially when a partner
is repeatedly suggesting it is your job that is keeping you stressed.
Maybe it is the partner’s spending habits,
the extracurricular activities he/she or children are involved in that they
desire your participation, or the fact a partner simply doesn’t like you
working around women and/or men. Quit
enough jobs in a short period of time and you will soon discover that your
workplace isn't the problem, but the issues a possibly jealous, argumentative
or controlling partner has placed upon you.
Here's why some people do the unthinkable, like suddenly quit
a job, while maintaining a miserable relationship:
1. They have
convinced themselves that things will get better in the relationship if they
didn’t have to deal with difficult people at work. Although this might be true in some cases, this
may not be an accurate perspective when the partner is the one who is blaming
the job and putting you up to quitting it for selfish reasons.
2. Moving on to a
better opportunity while promising a troubled mate how much better life will be
is a good excuse not to deal with chronic relationship problems. You are buying time, because you aren’t ready
to call it quits. If a partner is
thinking about leaving, he or she might change his or her mind in order to reap
some benefits such as: a new house, monetary gifts, relocation to a desired
state, family planning, getting out of debt, etc.—all the things that an
increase in income might bring.
3. A spouse, family
member or friend may have advised that it might be in your best interest
emotionally and/or legally to take on a job that pays less money and requires
less responsibilities. However, once
again, consider how involved others are in choosing your new career path? Once again, are you avoiding relationship
difficulties by distracting yourself with a new job search?
4. The person assumes
that is what a partner might want is to quit the job, because he or she often
complained about it. When in all actuality, he or she just can’t manage anymore
both job and relationship challenges.
5. The controlling partner
redirects the blame on his or herself for causing certain relationship problems
on to your job. He or she is never at
fault. “Why don’t you look for another
job, Honey. You know how you can be when
you come home from work.” Maybe the one,
who will soon be unemployed, simply wants to come home to no one.
Consider all factors before ending a job especially if it is
one that you personally like. Sure, it
has its share of challenges, what job doesn’t?
Your personal life may be hindering you from being a success—don’t let
it!
Nicholl McGuire is the owner of this blog and the author of WhatElse Can I Do on the Internet? She also owns and contributes to a blog
entitled, Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate.
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Wednesday
What's Wrong with the Job? 12 Possible Reasons Why Employees Leave
There are those reasons employees don't mind sharing with others as to why they don't work for a certain company any longer, but then there are those work observations they would never discuss because they wouldn't want to burn any bridges. Human Resources may know, but then again maybe not especially if some staff are too chummy with managers and supervisors or at fault.
So the following are some straightforward reasons why some workers leave that can be uncovered either before you take on a position, while you are working there or after you start a new job working elsewhere. Notice the cost savings and the headaches you no longer will have if you suggest some practical workplace changes.
1) It was boring working there.
What exactly are one's duties and when put into practice is there really enough work to hire someone for eight hours a day for five days a week?
2) Managers, assistants and other workers were divisive.
Notice how frequent the staff fraternize. Do they realize that their socializing is costing the company time, money and quality of work? Further, this kind of atmosphere often causes tension. Is it really necessary to visit a manager's office more times than one goes to the bathroom? All the talk definitely isn't about work.
3) People are lying to protect their jobs.
Some of the selfish, vindictive, veteran employees are also the most harmful! They have protected their jobs for so long with their secrets, lies, denials, and cover-ups that no wonder why new employees never seem to stay. Notice a pattern with a veteran employee who often points out the mistakes of others, doesn't bother to train effectively, and always has excuses as to why something wasn't done accurately.
4) Management couldn't care less about the issues that were raised.
Time and time again employees point out challenges and provide solutions and nothing seems to get done. No wonder why there is a high turn-over!
5) Co-workers had unchecked personality disorders that impacted business.
"That's just how he/she is..." says the supervisor excusing yet another offensive comment by a trouble-making employee. Not good enough! Why aren't write-ups fully enforced? When a disorder is increasingly causing problems in the workplace either an employee gets help or is terminated.
6) Substance abuse ongoing with a staff member.
Often taking breaks, lying about one's whereabouts, the odd smell on clothing, glassy or blood-shot eyes, hmm, someone has a major problem. When the addict makes repeated errors, nothing is done. Say goodbye to another observant worker who has had enough of the excuses as to why work is incomplete or not done.
7) Flirtatious managers and/or supervisors.
You would think with all the sexual harassment policies in place one wouldn't even attempt to cross the line, yet he or she does. Rather than raise the matter up with upper management and possibly face backlash, one attractive employee after another leave. Does anyone ever notice anything?
8) People stole and then covered things up.
Before one is thrown under the bus, he or she is out of there! No one wants to work among thieves and liars if they have good sense. Employees like this are always saying, "I'm just borrowing it." Sure. "You didn't see that...Those numbers are correct." Yeah right!
9) Management and/or supervisors were unreachable at crucial times during business hours.
So grateful to have help, yet far too eager to put one's phone on vibrate or off. Now what is the new employee supposed to do? You guessed it, figure things out rather right or wrong. That split decision-making gets old over time. Employees surely burn out too!
10) Owners didn't bother to spend money to fix recurring problems.
There are ways to get things done, but you won't like them. The employee is going to take matters in his or her own hands especially when management is ignoring phone calls. He or she is going to walk just when you need him or her the most. Making excuses and telling lies to customers' gets old. Fix the problem!
11) Worked far too many hours while the company was slow to hire new employees.
So the company wants to see how much work can be done with as few hands as possible. Great cost-savings move; however, sooner or later expect your best workers to start looking elsewhere for more pay with less responsibilities.
12) When customers' issues arose, management often took their side even when they were in the wrong.
What happened to team work makes the dream work? Not only are staff being cut, but now customers are always right too? Don't be surprised to see an employee's resume saved on the desktop. Some customers have their share of hidden agendas and they sure aren't in the best interest of the company. Listen to your employees with an open mind; rather than a mind ready to go on attack!
Recognize any of these things occurring in your establishment, you know what to do, be proactive before your good workers walk!
Nicholl McGuire manages this blog and many others. The wife and mother of four sons is an nonfiction author and inspirational speaker. She also works offline providing administrative support.
So the following are some straightforward reasons why some workers leave that can be uncovered either before you take on a position, while you are working there or after you start a new job working elsewhere. Notice the cost savings and the headaches you no longer will have if you suggest some practical workplace changes.
1) It was boring working there.
What exactly are one's duties and when put into practice is there really enough work to hire someone for eight hours a day for five days a week?
2) Managers, assistants and other workers were divisive.
Notice how frequent the staff fraternize. Do they realize that their socializing is costing the company time, money and quality of work? Further, this kind of atmosphere often causes tension. Is it really necessary to visit a manager's office more times than one goes to the bathroom? All the talk definitely isn't about work.
3) People are lying to protect their jobs.
Some of the selfish, vindictive, veteran employees are also the most harmful! They have protected their jobs for so long with their secrets, lies, denials, and cover-ups that no wonder why new employees never seem to stay. Notice a pattern with a veteran employee who often points out the mistakes of others, doesn't bother to train effectively, and always has excuses as to why something wasn't done accurately.
4) Management couldn't care less about the issues that were raised.
Time and time again employees point out challenges and provide solutions and nothing seems to get done. No wonder why there is a high turn-over!
5) Co-workers had unchecked personality disorders that impacted business.
"That's just how he/she is..." says the supervisor excusing yet another offensive comment by a trouble-making employee. Not good enough! Why aren't write-ups fully enforced? When a disorder is increasingly causing problems in the workplace either an employee gets help or is terminated.
6) Substance abuse ongoing with a staff member.
Often taking breaks, lying about one's whereabouts, the odd smell on clothing, glassy or blood-shot eyes, hmm, someone has a major problem. When the addict makes repeated errors, nothing is done. Say goodbye to another observant worker who has had enough of the excuses as to why work is incomplete or not done.
7) Flirtatious managers and/or supervisors.
You would think with all the sexual harassment policies in place one wouldn't even attempt to cross the line, yet he or she does. Rather than raise the matter up with upper management and possibly face backlash, one attractive employee after another leave. Does anyone ever notice anything?
8) People stole and then covered things up.
Before one is thrown under the bus, he or she is out of there! No one wants to work among thieves and liars if they have good sense. Employees like this are always saying, "I'm just borrowing it." Sure. "You didn't see that...Those numbers are correct." Yeah right!
9) Management and/or supervisors were unreachable at crucial times during business hours.
So grateful to have help, yet far too eager to put one's phone on vibrate or off. Now what is the new employee supposed to do? You guessed it, figure things out rather right or wrong. That split decision-making gets old over time. Employees surely burn out too!
10) Owners didn't bother to spend money to fix recurring problems.
There are ways to get things done, but you won't like them. The employee is going to take matters in his or her own hands especially when management is ignoring phone calls. He or she is going to walk just when you need him or her the most. Making excuses and telling lies to customers' gets old. Fix the problem!
11) Worked far too many hours while the company was slow to hire new employees.
So the company wants to see how much work can be done with as few hands as possible. Great cost-savings move; however, sooner or later expect your best workers to start looking elsewhere for more pay with less responsibilities.
12) When customers' issues arose, management often took their side even when they were in the wrong.
What happened to team work makes the dream work? Not only are staff being cut, but now customers are always right too? Don't be surprised to see an employee's resume saved on the desktop. Some customers have their share of hidden agendas and they sure aren't in the best interest of the company. Listen to your employees with an open mind; rather than a mind ready to go on attack!
Recognize any of these things occurring in your establishment, you know what to do, be proactive before your good workers walk!
Nicholl McGuire manages this blog and many others. The wife and mother of four sons is an nonfiction author and inspirational speaker. She also works offline providing administrative support.
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