Why would any woman or man in a relationship riddled with
lies, emotional abuse, and other ugly things want to quit a job? Wouldn’t he or she need money especially if
the relationship is coming to a slow end?
For some heartbroken couples, it is easier for them to cope by creating distractions
rather than addressing issues. Blaming
the job causes them to focus on something other than the spouse or partner who
really needs to go!
Being in an unsatisfying relationship will make you think
that issues you are faced with are really not at home especially when a partner
is repeatedly suggesting it is your job that is keeping you stressed.
Maybe it is the partner’s spending habits,
the extracurricular activities he/she or children are involved in that they
desire your participation, or the fact a partner simply doesn’t like you
working around women and/or men. Quit
enough jobs in a short period of time and you will soon discover that your
workplace isn't the problem, but the issues a possibly jealous, argumentative
or controlling partner has placed upon you.
Here's why some people do the unthinkable, like suddenly quit
a job, while maintaining a miserable relationship:
1. They have
convinced themselves that things will get better in the relationship if they
didn’t have to deal with difficult people at work. Although this might be true in some cases, this
may not be an accurate perspective when the partner is the one who is blaming
the job and putting you up to quitting it for selfish reasons.
2. Moving on to a
better opportunity while promising a troubled mate how much better life will be
is a good excuse not to deal with chronic relationship problems. You are buying time, because you aren’t ready
to call it quits. If a partner is
thinking about leaving, he or she might change his or her mind in order to reap
some benefits such as: a new house, monetary gifts, relocation to a desired
state, family planning, getting out of debt, etc.—all the things that an
increase in income might bring.
3. A spouse, family
member or friend may have advised that it might be in your best interest
emotionally and/or legally to take on a job that pays less money and requires
less responsibilities. However, once
again, consider how involved others are in choosing your new career path? Once again, are you avoiding relationship
difficulties by distracting yourself with a new job search?
4. The person assumes
that is what a partner might want is to quit the job, because he or she often
complained about it. When in all actuality, he or she just can’t manage anymore
both job and relationship challenges.
5. The controlling partner
redirects the blame on his or herself for causing certain relationship problems
on to your job. He or she is never at
fault. “Why don’t you look for another
job, Honey. You know how you can be when
you come home from work.” Maybe the one,
who will soon be unemployed, simply wants to come home to no one.
Consider all factors before ending a job especially if it is
one that you personally like. Sure, it
has its share of challenges, what job doesn’t?
Your personal life may be hindering you from being a success—don’t let
it!
Nicholl McGuire is the owner of this blog and the author of WhatElse Can I Do on the Internet? She also owns and contributes to a blog
entitled, Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate.
